A lot of people don't put a lot of effort into studying or improving their relationships. We see people, we relate to them in the way we've always done, and we call it good.
But there is a lot to gain on both a personal and professional level by working to enhance our relationships in the same way we work on our own personal development and business growth. In fact, they are all closely connected: as your relationships improve, so will your personal life and your business.
Here are three things you can do this year to help you in all your relationships.
Learn How to Be Funny
Sure, some of us are born funny, but there's a science behind humor. There are patterns to it that can be studied and learned. We're not saying you need to go on the stand-up circuit, but being able to write humorous content that people enjoy and diffuse a tense situation with a little comedy are skills that go a long way. Humor puts people at ease.
Your assignment: watch your favorite comedians. (Tough one, right?) But instead of just laughing your head off, get a sense of their rhythm and of why what they say is funny.
Read the book Comedy Writing Secrets and do the exercises it suggests.
Understand Personality Types
There are several different schools of thought that divide people by their personality types, some more specifically than others. Understanding the basics of someone's personality will explain to you why she recoils when you stand too close, or why his eyes glaze over when you start talking about how practical your product is. Certain people need space, and others just want to know how much fun something is, not how practical it is.
If you're not already familiar with your own type, take a few tests online like the Keirsey Temperament Sorter and Myers Briggs. You can also read about each type and get an idea of which types apply to the people in your life.
This book explains why the people we love might not be responding to the way we show our love, and why we might feel someone doesn't love us when, in fact, they're showing that love in the ways they understand. Understanding the love languages of your partner, friends, and children will help you communicate your love more effectively and meaningfully.
What have you learned lately that has improved your relationships?