It's normal to have a bad day every now and again, but if you've noticed you're stringing them together like Christmas lights, you've got to take a look at what's really going on. These five habits will ruin your day and your chances for long-lasting happiness. Could they be the culprit of why you're feeling stuck, frustrated, or unhappy?
Comparing Yourself to Others
It's one thing to say, "I want to be like her when I grow up!" and another to say, "Wow, she's already earned her first million. Why haven't I done that yet?" Everyone is involved in different circumstances, and just because yours haven't led to where others have been led, doesn't mean you're wrong or bad. Your journey is yours. You wouldn't be who you are without it, so embrace it and embrace where you are. You have your own goals to think about no matter what anyone else is or isn't doing.
Waiting For The Next Great Thing
Telling yourself you'll be happy after you get married, get your business up and running, finish a master's degree, have a child, or make a million dollars is a recipe for disaster. What's the guarantee that will do the trick? If you're not happy now, there's a good chance those things aren't going to help. They might make aspects of your life easier or more fun, but you can't bet your happiness and overall quality of life on them.
Not Defining Success for Yourself
What is success to you? Maybe it's not the house and the car. Maybe it's not the wedding and the family. Maybe it's not anything society might lead you to believe. If you let others dictate what success looks like to you, you'll never feel satisfied when you achieve. You define your own success, adjust that definition as needed, and go for it.
Thinking Too Much
Because what is it we're very often thinking about? The past, which we can't change, and the future, which might not happen the way we're imagining it (and worrying about it) anyway.
Of course, we need to think. We need to think through our decisions and spend time setting goals and visualizing what we desire for the future. But if we're over-thinking every little decision, we spend a lot of time in anxiety and paralysis where nothing gets accomplished because we're still wondering if we should go with Blue Heaven or Blue Whimsy for the walls of our home office.
Putting Yourself Last
If you're constantly giving 100% to your business, your family, your friends, your community, you don't have anything left for yourself. If you're unhealthy or unhappy, you're not truly showing up for them 100% anyway, and as you get worn down you might start to feel resentful of the very people and projects you love the most.
To be the best you, to provide the best value to your customers and the best parent/spouse/friend/mentor to the people around you, you've got to take care of yourself. Healthy habits like good food and exercise are only the beginning. What do you need to recharge? A bath and a book? A weekend getaway? A massage? Schedule these things into your life to properly care for yourself.
Have you ever had a time in your life when one of these habits was leading to frustration, resentment, or unhappiness?