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Define Yourself

By Melanie Ethridge on Jun 15, 2016

“This above all; to thine own self be true.” – William Shakespeare

In the world today we are bombarded by messages telling us how we should be, how we should act, and what we should look like. It’s almost as if the world is fighting against you to keep you from living from your truth—your most authentic space. But what is so important to remember is that we are each put on the earth to do something that no one else can do in just the exact way that we can and if we hide ourselves, the whole world misses out on what we have to offer.

One of the best ways to combat this and create freedom and space to live from your authenticity is to define for yourself who you want to be. If you don’t actively define this, everything and everyone else in the world will be trying to do it for you—and they don’t usually have your best in mind.

Here is a quick exercise to help you get clear on who you want to be:

On a piece of paper, write down words that describe who you want to be.  If you were living your ideal life, who would you be?  What would you be like?

Write out as many words as you’d like, and then take some time to narrow that list down to three words that describe who you’d like to be.

For example, my three words are:  Bold, True to Myself, and Disciplined. (Yes, you sticklers, I realize ‘true to myself’ is three words, but it’s one descriptor, so I went with it.)

The truth is that I don’t fully embody these words yet. They are a work in progress for me, but they describe how I want to show up in the world, so I keep them in front of me and ask myself daily, “Am I being Bold, True to Myself, and Disciplined?” and if my answer is yes, I know I’m moving in the right direction. If it’s no, I know that I need to redirect so that I can operate from my most authentic place.

If you know who you are, it’s far more difficult for other people to confuse you, so define your three words and keep them in front of you and seek to act in alignment with them every day.


Now, it’s your turn! Take your first step in living authentically and share your words with us below!

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