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Thoughts That Are Getting In Your Way (And What to Think Instead)

By Amanda Sides on Jun 11, 2016

Most of us have battled (and still are battling) a voice in our heads that says we're not enough: not smart enough, not talented enough, not creative enough, whatever. This voice tends to compare us to the best of the best and can, at its worst, keep us from trying at all.

The truth is, there's no one who can do what you do exactly the way you do it. Yes, there are thousands of Instagram accounts dedicated to yoga (and baking, and crafting, and traveling, and so on), but none of them are you. No one else is sharing your perspective. Only you can do that.

To realize this, there are certain thoughts we've got to eliminate from our mental repertoire.


I'm too late.

Now that everyone has a blog, you might be wishing you'd started yours 10 years ago. (Yep.) Too late for that, but here's the next best thing: you can start now. Stop thinking it's too late. Maybe the timing is perfectly right for you and what you have to give.

Things to think:

Now is the perfect time!

I'm right on time.

The world needs what I can do right now.


I don't know how.

Then learn! Learning new skills is easier than ever with YouTube, webinars like ours, the Kindle, and a wide variety of online learning resources. Don't let not knowing (yet) stop you from doing anything.

Things to think:

I can learn anything easily.

There is no limit to what my mind can absorb.

Somewhere, someone knows and can teach me.


I wasted so much time.

Did you? Or were you doing what you needed to do at the time? Don't dwell on how you could have learned French in the hours spent watching Desperate Housewives. We all have a little of that in our lives. Instead, focus on now and what you can do moving forward.

Things to think:

I've got today!

I can start right now.

I'm ready to go.


I'm going to ruin this.

You aren't, but telling yourself that opens the door to a self-fulfilling prophecy. You're capable, or you wouldn't be doing it at all. Believe in yourself.

Things to think:

I can do this!

They trust me with this because they know I can do it.

There's no one else who can do this like I can.


No one wants to help me.

There are so many people who want to help you. For starters, we do! If it's true that friends and family, oddly enough, aren't always the most supportive of your endeavors, you have to look outside your circle for support. It's there in the form of mentors, investors, and potential new clients. There are people who want you to succeed, and even those who want to actively help you do it.

Things to think:

My community is so supportive of me.

I know just where to go for help.

I can find all the help I need.


Do you catch yourself giving attention to negative thoughts? How do you turn them around?

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